order at home and in life
"... want to think about the little things: why I was so annoyed when the outcome of soap or toilet paper? (...) Or here's another: difficult to fly, especially clothes: as you will see a myriad of all rags, you cease to understand what she wanted and for what it was. And of course all-different about the mess of his own irritation cluttered desk or severe fatigue from the infinite - by definition - the nature of work to maintain house clean and tidy.
Trivia - no trivia, we are all quite aware of this. Trivia - is primarily a grain of sand in the hour of our unique life of their hundreds of and consists of thousands of day, week. And yet it is an innocent reason to pay attention to feelings (not those "big", which alone are worthy of the name, as a constant accompaniment, background). Ironically, it is the prose of life - and in a woman's life a lot of prose - brings us face to face with the very serious things, understand and remember that for larger reasons may be too hard.
(...) not in the business, build the shine on the cooker or not, but how do you know What do you want it or not "
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My God, how we are taught from childhood to order! And it is girls, then what goes around comes around more than once in our own families. "While Toys do not get out, no ... (TV, Mandarin, reading at night or something else we longed for five years). Corrected. Oderni. Check. Do not forget. Tighten. Where is the handkerchief? If the boys are still forgiven nails and nuts in your pockets and dump in a satchel, girls are trained on the conscience, the good material to resist less - for the time being.
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Then the order induced in the head: "Who thinks clearly, he briefly and clearly describes," What is forgotten? His head did you forget, I hope? "," success stories organized people, not rassomahi "... Meanwhile, conventional wisdom, too, does not sleep: "How to see your room, no marriage would not take "," Just wait, will you have your house, then you'll know. " Learn. Be sure to know.
years pass, and we have received instructions as well as our ability to fulfill them or violently resist them, played on stage by our own adult lives. And we really know that even an ideal order in the room still guarantees nothing: sloppy raspustehu may feel sexy, distinctive, intriguing - and tightened Gentle someone will seem dull and elder (Still: Guess who is more like a strict mom?) that the maintenance of order in the house where a man, a child and a dog, like commando operation deep in the enemy rear. We learn that the organization and clarity in the affairs of causes not shower praise and condescending smile, plus the desire is to it, organized and clear, throw a little more shallow and boring affairs. Know that much there. If try and separate the right from unnecessary and grains from Chernushka, family-run scenario and the machinations of the outside world from their own purposes - that,
perchance, we find for themselves some kind of solution.
Disorder is real, of course, also not in itself important. Most likely, such a tense relationship with all the "rock" questions (What kind of house you can not find anything! .. We moth flies survived! .. The third day is lying on the floor, bend down hard?) - this is only a reflection of other things. Related with dependence and power, with the understanding of their responsibilities and women's desperate resistance to them.
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House, no matter what it was, can tell a lot about our heroic efforts to tame the elements, to take control of even this small piece of the world - or flirting with the forces of chaos and destruction. Some of us hide this "novel" as the connection with non-prestigious men: only looking for them in the makeup case or in a drawer with underwear, you can see a real mess - Exactly what was strictly forbidden from childhood. Others, recalling a) mad employment, b) boring housing that does not change, c) general fatigue and beriberi, and d), e), e), etc., thrown into an abyss of confusion and remorse concerned only with their sudden visit of strangers.
One of the cleverest middle-aged woman who had seen and gone through a lot and inevitably became a master of practical self-analysis, told me once that her state of residence times subtly tells her what to look at life in general. For example, if the image of some deposits in the corners - whether of books, manuscripts, or detergents - she was sure that something does not want to think of something from itself conceals. If the time to draw your attention and to clarify for myself what was going on, on-site security angles sorted out as if by themselves. And if only a shame, they grow from it. Recommendation, apparently, is not universal and is not for everyone, but the idea seems curious.
There are two areas where our penchant for order and lightly covered with her love of chaos seen painful and clearly: it is time and money.
amazing how we can mesh their own employment, to put ourselves steps and shoulders impossibly high commitment in time what time to be by definition. To whom we, in actual fact, be accountable? Who and what are trying to prove? Is the eternal attempt to do everything is the same secret desire to obtain confirmation of one-root "progress" and "success"? But you know that, even having time to all, will not hear "Sit down, five" ... And here there saving excuse: when "too many ask," that we get it? Catch would be that something, somehow ... (If you have any imp-tempter received a special job does not give a person think about what's really important - the relationship with your loved ones about their own development and prospects, - It would have been "recipe", reminiscent of an unpleasant fact that we often do with the time of his life: to get more cases, none of them particularly not loving and not singled out as important, plenty of them get confused, lost control of the situation and floundering in the daily routine, always bite on the unfinished, grab it for one, for another ... "And life will be held, as were the Azores "...)
As for money, this versatile meter of our desires and opportunities, how often do we notice that on the background of a reasonable, prudent financial orders, we suddenly - suddenly, right? - Throwing some feint, making it completely crazy purchase. Need to whim? It is to amuse his folly? Or something pushes us from the inside to make up a small, non-lethal "emergency" and then wriggle out of it?
"And as the scope of relationships and say nothing: if all the" right " known in advance and does not promise any surprises, at some point it becomes uninteresting. Moreover, the more order and stability in our nature, sooner pull to some fanciful, whimsical creature who will turn our lives upside down, will drag us into unimaginable situations and, lightly chuckling over our heavy correctness, gallop on. This may be a man or a close friend - one of those being talked about, that they are "impossible" that they have "seven Fridays of the week" that they are "unreliable" and, of course, with them, "close to disaster." All true, but why do these "Messengers of chaos" of both sexes are so fond of, so they forgive, and insecurity and betrayal, and straight into trouble, their fault occur? I do not whether it is and pulls?
(c) Thank you EL Mikhailova
Here truly it is. And long live the "messengers of chaos!
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